To be born in a duck’s nest, in a farmyard, is of no consequence to a bird, if it is hatched from a swan’s egg.” ~ Hans Christian Andersen, The Ugly Duckling

If you’re one of us who had a difficult childhood, more nightmarish, you understand the distortions is can cause. When you’re raised from an early age being told, by people exercising their perceived sadistic rights in authority over you, you are worthless or to shut up because you’re stupid or being beaten or abused or sent to bed hungry or being told you’ll never amount to anything…well…that has the ability to damage a person. Sometimes it’s difficult to muster up out of the mystery of it all. However, that is exactly what we must do.

It seems so unfair for a child to be thrust into a life with such a horrific image of a loving God and yet that is what happens when adults treat children like they are objects to be used, abused and discarded like trash. But…no one was ever promissed a life of fairness.

It requires more than “pulling yourself up by your bootstraps”. It is a handicap of sorts which needs to be overcome. We must first discover who we are in Christ. Who God says we are. And it must be learned anew…a “renewing of the mind”.

Our Heavenly Father tells us exactly who we are to and in Him and we need to hold on tight to that revelation.

We have been chosen and are loved by God.

Colossians 3:12(AMP)Clothe yourselves therefore, as God’s own chosen ones (His own picked representatives), [who are] purified and holy and well-beloved [by God Himself]…

Through Christ, we have been set free from the bondage of all the things of old that have been said and done to us.

Galatians 5:1(MSG) Christ has set us free to live a free life. So take your stand! Never again let anyone put a harness of slavery on you.

We are a new creation and all that old crap needs to be discarded.

2 Corinthians 5:17(ESV) Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

We are His children.

John 1:12(AMP)But to as many as did receive and welcome Him, He gave the authority (power, privilege, right) to become the children of God, that is, to those who believe in (adhere to, trust in, and rely on) His name

We are His friends.

John 15:14-15(MSG) You are my friends when you do the things I command you. I’m no longer calling you servants because servants don’t understand what their master is thinking and planning. No, I’ve named you friends because I’ve let you in on everything I’ve heard from the Father.

These are just a few examples on how God feels about us and what He thinks of us. We have no right to cling to the lies which have been inflicted on us by other humans. We need to stand up straight, put our shoulders back and allow who we are in Christ become our new reality. And when the self doubt or negative self talk rears its ugly, evil head we need to rebuke it and stay on point in God’s directives.

Ms. Bytes has written a few times about “self talk”. In one post she said…If you think about it, negative self talk does not honor God. That’s a bit like a parent hearing a child put themselves down, I imagine.


We are not that ugly duckling in the farmyard. We are the beautiful swan God has created us to be and as such, we need to claim our place in the rivers of Living Water.

Remember…Who you really are.

In Him,


8 thoughts on “Who

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  2. It is quite sad whenever adults infuse negativity into the ears of a child, because like a sponge, a child will absorb the information and become one with the message. It is child abuse, in my opinion, to infuse such energy into a child. His word of significance, therefore, becomes undermined by worldly beings professing a message of negativity. It is such a shame.

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