The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place. ~ George Bernard Shaw
We all have them…those wonderful tools of technology…Laptops, Kindle, Tablets, Smart Phones, etc. We rely on them for research, education, information, news, music, maps, as well as the various forms of communication they provide…email, phone, video conferencing, commenting on various sites, Facebook, Twitter, the over all list of their capability, and possibility, is endless.
Since all of these fabulous tools have invaded our collective lives, it seems as though these items have become much more than tools. They have become gods. Demanding our attention, seeking control and abolishing our ability, and desire, to communicate with people…in person…eye to eye. You know…humans? Two legs? Walks upright?
Person “A”…I went to the doc…
Person “B”…Just a minute. I need to respond to this text.
Ok. You were saying?
Person “A”…I went to the doctor today…
Person “B”…(Holds up one finger in the universal sign of “hold on” and proceeded to read the response text and then reply. Then said…Sorry about that. Go on.
Person “A”…I went to the doctor today and the diag…
Person “B”…(Phone rings) Oh! I have to take this!
When she hangs up she says “Sorry”.
Person “A”…Well…I went to the doctor today and the diagnosis was…
Person “B”…(while typing a text) Go ahead, I’m listening.
Excuse me for being so focused but no…they weren’t “listening”. It is not humanly possible to have two conversations simultaneously. Mentally, we accept this gadget invasion as being as important as a hungry baby crying while waiting for a loving mothers breast. Emotionally we are tied to them with a deeper commitment than feeding the dog. Poor Spot. Physically we respond to them with the urgency of first responders to a natural disaster. Seriously? When did this become socially acceptable behavior? Do you know why they are called “smart phones”? Because most people are too dumb to know when to ignore them.
Now, I understand there may be times occasionally when an immediate response may be necessary with these gadgets, however that should be the exception…not the rule.
Proverbs 25:11(AMP) A word fitly spoken and in due season is like apples of gold in settings of silver.
How will we realize the treasure in that if we aren’t listening as others are trying to communicate with us?
Colossians 4:6(ESV) Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.
Does this not presume the person we are trying to answer wants an answer?
The world will behave as the world behaves but we, dear Brother and Sister in Christ, are to be different.
Proverbs 1:15(AMP) My son, do not walk in the way with them; restrain your foot from their path;
Deuteronomy 7:6(ESV) For you are a people holy to the Lord your God. The Lord your God has chosen you to be a people for his treasured possession, out of all the peoples who are on the face of the earth.
Remember…Communication is a skill that you can learn. It’s like riding a bicycle or typing. If you’re willing to work at it, you can rapidly improve the quality of every part of your life. ~ Brian Tracy It is time for us to be “willing”.